“Brother, you are doomed to fail if you date like this.” Lao Zhang put down his coffee cup and pointed out sharply.
I smiled bitterly and looked at the message “Sorry, we may not be suitable” on my phone. This is the third failed date in a month. As an early Bitcoin player, I thought I was familiar with the ups and downs of the market, but I failed again and again in the face of love.
The first date was with Amy, a financial advisor at a bank. I talked about my cryptocurrency investment experience for an hour and even took out my phone to show my account income. She smiled politely and never replied again.
The second time was with Lily, a designer. I tried to control myself from talking about Bitcoin, but when she asked about work, I couldn’t help but start explaining the principles of blockchain. Her eyes gradually drifted away, and the date ended early.
This time it was with Xiaoxuan. We chatted very speculatively on social software. But after meeting, my phone kept receiving price reminders, and my attention was completely drawn away by market fluctuations. Even when she was talking about her ideals, I was secretly looking at the K-line.
“Do you know what’s wrong?” Lao Zhang asked.
“I know, I shouldn’t always talk about Bitcoin…”
“No, the problem is not Bitcoin, but that you treat it as the only topic. Remember, girls like a complete person, not a machine that watches the market 24 hours a day.”
After listening to Lao Zhang’s advice, I began to adjust:
– Mute the price alerts when dating
– Learn to listen to each other’s stories
– Find common topics instead of forcing Bitcoin knowledge
– Show your other interests and hobbies
The turning point came last week. At a technology salon, I met An An. This time I learned to be smart and asked her to share her views on future technology first. When she asked about Bitcoin curiously, I didn’t talk about it immediately, but asked her what she thought about digital currency.
We talked for a whole afternoon, from technological innovation to humanistic care, from real life to future vision. When she left, she said: “You are different from other people in the currency circle.”
“What’s the difference?”
“You listen to others carefully.”
Now, An An and I have started dating. I have learned to turn off my phone on important occasions and focus on every moment of the present. Bitcoin is still important, but it is no longer the whole of life.
As Lao Zhang said: “The best relationship is like the best investment, which requires patience, concentration, and a sincere heart.”
