I met a new sugar baby (SB) who I had only communicated with through text messages so far. When I asked her to have lunch, she readily agreed. For me, this kind of relationship building requires clear communication, so I make it a point to clear the venue before the meeting and make sure both parties have a full and good understanding of the arrangement. We should discuss various details in depth, clarify each other’s boundaries, and anything that may make us both feel comfortable. After all, in a healthy “sugar” relationship, honesty and clarity are key.
In the process of arranging a time to meet, the conversation began to go in a direction that I didn’t expect. She suddenly asked me if I would bring a cash gift to the meeting. I actually understand this situation. In such relationships, giving certain material gifts is sometimes customary, and I really want to help her. After all, this is also part of building a relationship. However, I was a little surprised when she went on to ask for $500 just for a meeting of about an hour and lunch. She also emphasized that this was just a simple lunch and made it clear that we would not have any intimate relationship.
I don’t think I am a stingy person. Within a reasonable range, I am willing to invest resources in this relationship. But the request she made did sound a bit too high. $500 seemed to be far beyond my original expectations for a lunch and a short meeting. This put me in a dilemma and I didn’t know how to respond.
On the one hand, I can understand that she may have her own financial needs or have specific expectations for this relationship. Maybe in her cognition, such a gift is reasonable, after all, she is willing to take time out to have lunch with me, and this “sugar” relationship itself contains a certain material exchange factor. Moreover, I am also worried that if I directly reject her request, it may destroy the communication atmosphere that has just been established, making her feel that I am not generous enough, thus affecting our subsequent communication and relationship development.
On the other hand, this amount does make me feel unreasonable. Just an hour of meeting, without any further intimate interaction, to pay such a high cash gift, seems to break my psychological balance of economic contribution in this relationship. If I easily agree to her request, will it give her a signal that she can make high demands at will? Will I face similar situations every time I meet in the future, which will gradually increase the financial pressure on me.
I began to think about how other sugar daddies would handle this situation. Would they meet the sugar baby’s request without hesitation, or would they try to negotiate a more reasonable amount with the sugar baby? Or would they directly reject the request and look for a more suitable sugar baby again?
I also wondered if this was a common problem in “sugar” relationships. Do many sugar babies make high financial demands when they first meet to test the attitude and financial strength of the sugar daddy? And how can sugar daddies protect their own rights and interests while meeting the reasonable needs of sugar babies, and ensure that this relationship remains relatively fair and sustainable in terms of economy?
Maybe I can try to communicate with her and express my understanding of her needs, but at the same time frankly explain that $500 is beyond my expectations. I can propose a relatively moderate amount and see her reaction. This can show that I am willing to support her financially and that I have a rational attitude towards financial contributions in this relationship.
But if she insists on asking for $500, how should I choose? Should I bite my tongue and agree to her, or give up this meeting and look for a new sugar baby who meets my expectations? This decision is not easy, because each choice may bring different results.
