Not Sure What My SB Is Thinking: Balancing Expectations

Not Sure What My SB Is Thinking: Balancing Expectations

Your situation is not uncommon in the sugar lifestyle. It sounds like your SB values your time together but isn’t meeting your communication expectations. Here’s a breakdown of what might be happening, why it’s worth addressing, and how resources like the BTC Holders Club can help you navigate this dynamic.

What Could Be Going On?

  1. Different Communication Styles

    1. Your SB may genuinely not be a big texter. Some people find texting tedious or don’t see it as a priority, even with people they care about.
    2. She might feel that the connection you share in person speaks for itself, and texting isn’t necessary to maintain the bond.

  2. Lack of Alignment on Expectations

    1. In the sugar lifestyle, expectations vary widely. If you’re looking for more consistent communication, she might not realize it’s important to you unless you address it directly.
    2. Her lack of flirty texts might stem from her viewing your arrangement more practically, even if she enjoys your time together.

  3. Boundaries or Emotional Distance

    1. Some SBs maintain a level of emotional detachment as a way to navigate the complexities of sugar relationships. This might manifest as less texting or minimal engagement outside of your meetups.

Are You Asking Too Much?

It’s fair to desire a connection that feels engaging both in person and over text. However, it’s important to consider:
  • Your Own Lifestyle: If you can’t see her often due to your own commitments, you might naturally crave more virtual interaction to fill the gap.
  • Her Perspective: She may feel she’s fulfilling her role within the arrangement by making the time you spend together memorable and enjoyable.
If this is a true sugar relationship, it’s essential to remember that it’s not meant to mirror traditional romantic relationships. That said, feeling appreciated and connected should still be part of the experience.

How to Address the Situation

  1. Open the Conversation

    1. Politely bring up how you feel about her texting habits.
    2. Example: “I love the time we spend together, and I’ve noticed we don’t text much in between. It would mean a lot to me if we could connect more, even just a quick message here and there.”

  2. Set Realistic Expectations

    1. If texting isn’t her strength, suggest alternatives like scheduled calls or brief daily check-ins.
    2. Make it clear you’re not trying to micromanage her but value a balance of communication.

  3. Gauge Her Interest

    1. Her response to this conversation will tell you a lot about where she stands. If she makes an effort to adjust, it’s a good sign she values your connection. If not, she may not see texting as part of the arrangement.

  4. Explore BTC Holders Club Resources

    1. Community Advice: Share your experience and get tailored advice from other members who’ve faced similar dynamics.
    2. SB Compatibility Insights: The club offers tools and tips to help you identify SBs who align better with your communication needs.
    3. Structured Agreements: BTC Holders Club emphasizes the importance of clear expectations from the outset. Revisiting your arrangement and clarifying your preferences could help bridge this gap.

Final Thoughts

You’re not overreacting—wanting to feel connected to your SB is valid. However, the sugar lifestyle is about mutual enjoyment, not control. If you can’t find a balance that works for both of you, it may be worth considering whether this arrangement truly fulfills your needs.
 
Remember, the BTC Holders Club exists to ensure its members enjoy fulfilling, secure relationships. By leveraging its resources, you can navigate these situations with confidence and find clarity in your arrangement.