I’m new to the sugar baby and sugar daddy world, and I’m like a newbie groping in an unfamiliar forest, full of curiosity and confusion. Recently, I’ve encountered some confusing things in my text exchanges with some potential sugar daddies.
Many sugar daddies start by talking directly about ppm (pay per meeting). You think once this topic is brought up, the topic will naturally lead to sex/intimacy. After all, everyone knows that in this kind of relationship, these two things are closely related. But every time I follow the topic and carefully ask about sex or intimacy, the girls seem to disappear and never reply to me again.
At first I was quite puzzled, but then I thought about it, it seems that these sugar daddies don’t want to get involved in sex at all. This makes me wonder, how realistic is this situation in this circle? Is it a common phenomenon that sugar daddies run away when sex is mentioned?
In my understanding, real sugar babies should understand the working mode of this relationship. We are all adults. Since we expect the other party to give financial support, it seems that we should be prepared for intimacy. Of course, the intimacy mentioned here must be based on mutual respect. We must have a limit and not do those perverted and bastard things. But now this situation makes me a little confused.
Later, I talked to people in the circle and found that there are really many opinions. Some people say that there are many girls who love to wander and have naive ideas in this world. Some girls think that they can easily get money if they dress up beautifully in front of you. But how can this be considered a real sweetheart? A real sweetheart has his own scale for the input and output of this kind of relationship.
Someone also told me that in fact, many SBs who don’t want sex (of course, those scammers who are purely cheating money must be excluded) will express their attitude in their profiles. Either make a label of “Platonic relationship” or clearly write what kind of relationship they are looking for. So, when communicating with SBs in text, you have to subtly mention the topic of sex as early as possible. I have tried it myself, and the first thing I said the most was “Intimate relationships are very important to me.” This statement not only shows my attitude, but it is not too straightforward and makes people feel uncomfortable.
Speaking of this, I have to remind you that you have to be careful in this circle. There is a kind of content seller who specializes in deceiving you to give her money and then send you some photos or videos. There are also some girls who start telling tragic stories as soon as they talk to you, such as rent is about to be paid, car mortgage is overdue, mother is sick and needs money urgently. When I encounter this kind of thing, I immediately tell them that I will not send money to someone I have never met. In this world, people’s hearts are complicated, and we have to be on guard.
Take a SB I met a few days ago. At the beginning, the conversation was quite normal. She took the initiative to talk about ppm, and I asked her about her views on intimate relationships. As a result, she never replied to my message since then. I thought at the time, was it because I asked too directly? Or was she particularly sensitive about sex and didn’t want to continue the conversation after hearing it?
Later, I met another girl. Her profile didn’t have any special requirements. We chatted for a few days and felt good. During one of the chats, I mentioned that intimacy is very important to me, just like before. She replied that she understood, but it seemed that her reply was a bit perfunctory. Later, she gradually stopped replying to my messages. I wondered if she didn’t want to get involved in sex, but just didn’t know how to tell me, so she chose to avoid it?
I also wondered if my understanding of this kind of relationship was too one-sided. Maybe some SBs really want to find a different balance between financial support and intimacy. Or maybe they had a bad experience before, so they are particularly resistant to the topic of sex. But no matter what, communication is really important in this circle. You have to find a way to express your ideas and respect the other person’s feelings, otherwise the relationship can’t develop at all.
Anyway, I am still groping in this circle. I hope to figure out these twists and turns as soon as possible and find a way to get along that is comfortable and acceptable to both parties. After all, everyone comes with their own needs and expectations, and if a consensus can be reached on the basis of mutual respect, then this kind of relationship may develop quite well.
