“Scum” usually means being irresponsible and not loyal in a relationship, and putting one’s own feelings and interests above those of others. For example, some people will be ambiguous with multiple objects at the same time, enjoying the admiration of others but never giving a sincere response, or easily start a relationship and casually abandon the other party, completely ignoring the harm caused to the other party. In the short term, they may seem free and easy, and can constantly get freshness from different people and satisfy their emotional or material needs. Like those who frequently change dates in social occasions just to kill time and seek excitement.
However, this kind of “scum” behavior will backfire in the long run. First of all, it will seriously damage their reputation, and people around them who know their behavior will gradually stay away, making it difficult for them to establish a truly deep and sincere emotional relationship. Moreover, this cynical attitude towards feelings often reflects the emptiness in their hearts, and they cannot really gain long-term and valuable things from feelings. In the end, they may only be left alone, and their hearts will not be truly satisfied.
“Lick” means that one lowers oneself too much in a relationship, caters to and pleases the other person blindly, and even loses self-esteem and principles. For example, no matter how unreasonable the other person’s request is, one will unconditionally agree, and when the other person is cold to oneself, one will keep sticking to the other person, always thinking that as long as one pays enough, one can get the other person’s love. In the pursuit stage, some people will be around the object of their affection every day, and will be ecstatic if the other person responds a little, but many times it is only one-sided, and the other person may not appreciate it.
Such a practice is also unhealthy. Being in this unequal emotional mode for a long time, it is easy to make oneself more and more inferior, lack self-confidence, and ignore one’s own value. Moreover, once the relationship does not end, the frustration of not getting a return for the effort will cause a great blow to oneself psychologically, and may even affect the attitude towards the relationship in the future, and dare not bravely pursue true love again.
In a relationship, the healthy approach should be to maintain equality, respect and sincerity, neither to satisfy oneself by hurting others, nor to please others without any bottom line, and to find a way to get along with each other in mutual appreciation and mutual dedication, so as to gain a truly beautiful emotional experience.
You can be a scumbag and lick him, and you will be invincible
