How I Taught My SD About Hygiene (Without Embarrassing Him)
It’s always the little details that can make or break an experience. I had been talking to my SD for a while, getting to know each other through our shared love of fine dining, travel, and, of course, the world of cryptocurrency (shoutout to the BTC Holders Club!). We had a few amazing dates—luxurious dinners, private yacht parties, and deep conversations about investments and the future of blockchain technology. He was charming, intelligent, and generous, so when we decided to take things to the next level, I was excited.
But then came the “intimate” part of our arrangement. Let me tell you, nothing prepared me for the reality of our first intimate encounter.
We had just finished a delicious Italian dinner at one of my favorite restaurants, and the night seemed perfect for an intimate setting. He booked us a gorgeous suite in a five-star hotel (classy, as always). The mood was great. We’d shared laughs and stories about our latest BTC holdings, had a glass of wine, and things were flowing smoothly. I thought, “This is going to be amazing.”
But then… when things got more intimate, I was hit by a smell that almost made me gag.
You know that moment when you feel like you might throw up, but you’re trying your best to keep it together because you don’t want to embarrass anyone? Yeah. That was me, at that moment, with my face right in a very… delicate situation.
I don’t know if it was just a bad day or if he wasn’t aware, but his “buddy” was definitely not fresh. Honestly, it was such a turn-off, and it made me wonder how he could be so put-together in every other aspect of his life—his tailored suits, his wealth, his knowledge of the crypto world—but completely neglect the basics of self-hygiene. I was trying my best not to show my disgust, but inside, I was cringing.
The Dilemma
Now, I’m not someone who likes to create awkward moments, but this was a serious issue. I knew we couldn’t just jump right into a conversation about his hygiene, but I also didn’t want this to happen again. After all, if he was going to keep me in his life—and especially if we were going to continue exploring more intimate encounters—I needed him to be aware of basic hygiene. It’s just something you have to do, no matter your status or lifestyle.
How I Raised the Issue
A couple of days later, I decided to bring it up gently. He had sent me a message, asking how the night went, and I knew this was the perfect opportunity. I didn’t want to embarrass him or make him feel bad, so I kept the tone light and framed it in a way that didn’t sound accusatory.
I texted: “Hey, I just wanted to say that I really enjoyed our time together the other night. You’re so much fun to be with, and I really appreciate how thoughtful and generous you are. There’s just one thing I wanted to mention… I think it might be helpful to freshen up a little before we get intimate next time. It’s a little thing, but it really makes a difference for me, and I thought I’d share since we’re both being open about what we like.”
I wasn’t sure how he’d react. Maybe he’d be defensive. Maybe he wouldn’t care. But when he responded, I was relieved.
His reply was: “Wow, thank you for telling me. I honestly didn’t even think about it. I’ll definitely be more mindful of that next time. You’re absolutely right—it’s a small thing, but I get why it matters.”
I couldn’t believe how easy it was to bring it up. It was such a simple conversation, and he responded with understanding and maturity. There was no defensiveness, no awkwardness. Just an open acknowledgment that, yes, personal hygiene is important, and it’s something we both need to be mindful of.
The Next Date
Fast forward to our next meeting, and let me tell you—the difference was night and day. He had clearly taken my suggestion seriously. He was fresh, clean, and absolutely ready to enjoy the evening without any worries. Not only did he look good, but he felt good, too, which made the whole experience far more enjoyable for both of us.
We spent the evening chatting about his latest crypto investments, the BTC Holders Club, and even shared a few laughs about how some people take hygiene for granted. We were both in a much better mood, and that intimacy we shared was far more natural and relaxed. It was a real connection.
Takeaways
If there’s anything I learned from this experience, it’s that communication doesn’t have to be difficult. Being upfront about your needs, especially in something as personal as intimacy, can be awkward at first, but it’s worth it for the sake of both parties’ comfort and enjoyment. Hygiene is something that shouldn’t be ignored, no matter how rich or influential someone is. It’s the little things that show you care, and it’s the little things that can make all the difference in an arrangement.
As for my SD, we’re doing great. The next few dates were amazing, and not just because of his newfound attention to hygiene (although that definitely helped). There’s a comfort in knowing that we’re both willing to be open and honest about what we like and don’t like, which is what makes this arrangement work. I think it’s safe to say we both learned a lot from each other, and that makes all the difference in a sugar arrangement, or any relationship for that matter.
So, to all the SDs out there: please, take a quick bath or shower before meeting up next time. A little attention to detail can go a long way, and your SB will thank you for it.
