I am a fairly low-key person whose preferences lean towards the simple and unpretentious. I would rather have a delicious meal in a regular restaurant where the atmosphere is casual and the food is special than indulge in an elaborate Michelin-starred degustation. The latter is undoubtedly a culinary masterpiece, but often comes with an atmosphere and price that seems to be more about brand prestige than pure food enjoyment.
Like when it comes to traveling, my ideal vacation spot is a cozy cabin nestled deep in the woods. The tranquility of the forest, the sounds of nature, and the simplicity of living in a rural setting far outweigh the appeal of staying in a luxury hotel in the city center. It’s not that I can’t appreciate the luxury and convenience of a high-end hotel in a bustling metropolis. It’s just that I’ve been to those exotic places and experienced their offerings, and now, I find more value in the tranquility of a nature retreat.
That said, I fully understand that many sugar babies (SB) crave these high-end experiences. They dream of dining in Michelin-starred restaurants, staying in luxury hotels, and enjoying all the finer things in life. I’m more than happy to help. There is a unique satisfaction in showing them a world that they may not be able to enter, and witnessing the joy and excitement on their faces as they enjoy life. It’s my way of sharing resources and creating memories they’ll treasure.
Now, let’s imagine the story of two very different sugar babies. One is like a philosopher’s soulmate. She enjoys the simple pleasures in life. Ordering takeout, having a glass of wine, and having a deep, meaningful discussion about life is her idea of a perfect night out. Material possessions mean little to her. She’s more interested in the connection, intellectual stimulation, and emotional bond we share.
The other is a “see and be seen” bombshell. She thrives in the spotlight and craves to get out of town, make a grand entrance, and have a wild and memorable time. Spa days where she can be pampered from head to toe and sparkly, expensive trinkets make her heart race. She loves the glitz and glamour of a high society lifestyle.
Let’s assume that after a few dates with each of them, the topic of allowances inevitably comes up. In my head, I have a predetermined yearly budget that I’m willing to allocate to each relationship. Here’s the rub: I value both of these sugar babies equally. I see the unique qualities in each of them and cherish the time we have together. So, I throw a number out there to gauge their reaction and see if they agree.
However, giving both the same allowance seems inherently unfair. The philosopher, with her simple tastes, costs me far less in terms of experiences and talents. She’s content with the occasional takeout and bottle of wine. The bombshell, by contrast, requires a constant stream of high-end outings, spas, and luxury goods to be happy. So shouldn’t the philosopher get the extra savings as an additional allowance? That seems like a way to balance the scales and reward her for being frugal.
On the other hand, I also respect the fact that while a nice dinner at a fancy restaurant is a wonderful experience, it doesn’t pay for rent. I don’t want the bombshell to feel like I’m cheating on her. She has her own set of expectations and financial needs that come with the lifestyle she wants. I don’t want her to think that she’s being treated unfairly just because she has more expensive tastes.
So, do sugar babies feel like their allowance could be higher if they don’t like fancy stuff? Or do they believe that their allowance should be based on a more holistic view of the relationship, including emotional connection and time together, rather than just their spending habits?
For those who might think I’m approaching this too transactionally, treating it as a math problem rather than a relationship, please try to understand my perspective. I assign monetary values to things all day long, whether they’re tangible assets or intangible concepts. For better or worse, this mentality has permeated every aspect of my life. I’m not trying to disparage these relationships; rather, I’m trying to find a fair and practical way to navigate the financial aspects of these unique connections.
