Everyone knows that the relationship between “Sugar Treasure” and “Sugar Dad” is quite special, especially when it comes to payment, which has always been particularly sensitive and worth pondering. Let’s talk about myself. I have to meet my ‘sugar daddy’ again this weekend, and he said he would still pay per use (PPM).
We had a relationship the first time we met. I asked him to give me the money first, and he didn’t have any objections. I even joked, ‘If you don’t give me the money, you can’t do it.’. We got along quite well during that meeting. But now when I think about having to ask him to pay first for our next meeting, I feel a little guilty. I’m worried that he thinks I can’t trust him. After all, we did it the first time we met, but from now on, does’ Sugar Treasure ‘have to ask’ Sugar Dad ‘to pay first?
From the perspective of ‘sugar daddy’, his willingness to choose the method of giving money on a per use basis indicates that he accepts this transaction method. The first time I asked him to give me money, he agreed. Maybe he understood that this could protect my rights, or maybe he wanted to push the relationship forward quickly at that time. But if it happens every time, he may feel like a tool for spending money, like a walking wallet in this relationship, not the kind of partner who can communicate emotions. Especially after the first pleasant interaction, he may hope that in the future, the relationship can be simpler and not make it seem like making a deal every time.
For ‘Sugar Treasure’, asking for money first is actually to protect themselves. This relationship is quite complex, and giving money is a very important part. Only by receiving the money first can one know that their efforts will be rewarded and also prevent encountering those “sugar daddies” who don’t keep their promises. But if we keep demanding so forcefully every time, the good atmosphere that we had worked hard to cultivate before may be destroyed. Both of them became familiar with each other and had a tacit understanding. They even insisted on giving money first, as if there was a wall between them, blocking any potential emotional communication that could have developed.
Perhaps we can try a more tactful approach. For example, before meeting, chat with him casually and say that we had a great time last time, while implying that this time it will be the same arrangement as last time. This way, it won’t be too direct about money, and it can make the ‘sugar daddy’ understand what it means. Or when meeting, start by interacting and creating a good atmosphere, and then find a suitable time to affectionately raise the expenses, like “Darling, you haven’t forgotten how we arranged last time”. This way, you can express your thoughts without making him feel offended.
In this special relationship, payment issues need to be handled carefully, ensuring that one does not suffer losses while also taking care of the other party’s feelings, finding a balance point, and making the relationship more harmonious and stable.
